By Rachael Taylor
What do you do when life throws you a curveball?
On those days when the world seems to knock you down and you're having trouble getting back up again?
I'm sure you all know the phrase "get back on the horse". Growing up riding, I couldn't tell you how many times I've fallen off. And the rule was, if you can stand and move all your limbs, then you had to get back on and finish what you started.
And as a kid that was super easy to do, I was fearless and felt unbreakable so of course I always got back on. As an adult, I got back on because it's what I'd always done and I couldn't see myself not trying again.
But one thing I've noticed is, a lot of time it's easier to physcially get back in the game but emotionally we're carrying around anger, fear, shame and grief when life knocks us off our horse. And those emotions build over time and can manifest themselves into health blocks, our sabotages and resistance to living a happy, healthy life.
So that's why today I'm talking about the 5 things you can do to support yourself emotionally, physically and spiritually to recover from those knock down moments and get back on your horse. Because being unstoppable has everything to do with your mindset and the actions you do each and every day.
1. Give yourself permission to be upset.
2. Forgive yourself and the situation or person.
3. Tap on it with EFT.
4. Write down everything you can think of you're grateful for.
5. Build an anchor around what action you're taking to get back up.
First of all, allow yourself to be upset. Let yourself be sad or angry or frustrated. Because stuffing down your emotions will only lead to internalizing stress, increasing body aches and pain and cause you digestive distress.
Set a timer for 5 minutes to let yourself think about what's going wrong in your world.
That thing that's knocked you down, focus on it and allow yourself to feel everything negative around it.
It's now time to practice forgiveness.
What does that curveball or impossible situation mean for you?
What does this experience say about you?
What are 3 ways that it's helping you right now?
What do you need to forgive to release those emotions?
Then, grab a pen and paper write down all the reasons why that thing is bad, keeping you stuck or impossible to change.
Leave some room on the left and right side of each reason because you're going to add to it.
"I'll never feel safe in my finances".
"I'll never lose this weight".
"My boss will never promote me and I'm stuck".
"My relationship with my partner is over and I feel alone".
Before each reason add the words "Even though" and after the reason add "I deeply and completely love and accept myself".
It would now look like:
"Even though I'll never feel safe in my finances, I deeply and completely love and accept myself."
"Even though I'll never lose this weight, I deeply and completely love and accept myself."
"Even though my boss will never promote me and I'm stuck, I deeply and completely love and accept myself."
"Even though my relationship with my partner is over and I feel alone, I deeply and completely love and accept myself."
Now take these new sentences and use Emotional Freedom Technique aka tapping to release all the bad things and fears you are experiencing in your current situation.
You will take two fingers and gently tap on your forehead, between your eyebrows while you say "Even though (your phrase here) I deeply and completely love and accept myself".
Then you'll move to the outside of your eye and tap while saying "Even though (your phrase here) I deeply and completely love and accept myself".
Now to your cheekbone, "Even though (your phrase here) I deeply and completely love and accept myself".
Then above your lips, under your nose "Even though (your phrase here) I deeply and completely love and accept myself".
And finally on your chin, "Even though (your phrase here) I deeply and completely love and accept myself".
Repeat that tapping routine until you feel the tension release from your body.
Pause and take a few 5-5-7 breaths.
Breathe in through your nose for a count of 5, hold for a count of 5 and exhale through your mouth for a count of 7.
Do this 5-5-7 breath anywhere from 5 to 10 times.
It will trigger your parasympathetic nervous system to calm your body down and remove you from it's stressed state, giving you space to relax and further release tension.
Now grab your pen and paper again, set a timer for 5 minutes, and write down as many things you can think of that you're grateful for.
My list usually starts with my Mom and then gets more specific as time goes on. Sometimes you can get stuck but just keep thinking and writing whatever comes into your brain.
Lastly, build an anchor around how you can take action to overcome that problem.
I'm a big fan of phone pop-ups and calendar alerts, I put a phone alarm and calendar note that go off each day to remind me how I'm actively meeting that problem head on.
It can be something that's encouraging, a kick butt reminder of how far you've come, what it'll be like when you hit your goals, how it will feel when you've overcome this problem, really anything that resonates with you and gets you back on track.
Because life is going to throw curveballs at you and it's going to have moments that leave you scrambling and spiraling. You need to have practical tools to break the panic cycle and let you not only learn from that experience but choose how much it affects you and what you do.
I'd now love to hear from you, leave a comment around what was most helpful for you and a time when you got back on the horse (metaphorically speaking).
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