By Rachael Taylor
I recently watched this documentary on Hulu called Tiny Shoulders: Rethinking Barbie, if you’ve ever owned a Barbie doll then it’s a must watch for you. Not only was it fascinating learning about the cultural effect Barbie has had, what she stands for and the impact on young women around the world, it was also eye opening to the story of its creator Ruth Handler.
Ruth was truly a woman before her time and is best remembered for inventing the Barbie doll in 1959. She named the doll after her daughter Barbie and got the idea from watching her daughter play with paper cutouts of women with her friends.
The young girls would mix and match the outfits to tell a story of what that paper cutout was doing, essentially acting out their dreams and planning their futures. Ruth saw this and forged ahead with her idea.
She hit negative feedback, the manufacturers told her it couldn’t be done, the toy fair rejected it, her husband said “I told you so” but Ruth didn’t give up. She continued to fight for Barbie and now it’s estimated that one Barbie is sold every three seconds and the brand is recognized worldwide.
I found this to be incredible inspiring to learn about. Because Ruth had confidence in spades.
And I find that for so many of us, we really struggle with having confidence in who we are, what we’re doing or what we want our life to be like.
There can be a lot of fear and overwhelm when trying to figure it out too, so how come some people are just naturally confident? And others have to work on standing up for themselves and breaking out of their shell?
Honestly? There’s so many reasons, but a big part of it is your natural personality.
I used to run away from the room and hide in my bedroom whenever I had a fight with my sister. My parents used to go upstairs, get me from my room and make me walk back downstairs to have conflict resolution.
At the time it was torture, but looking back it was the best thing they could have done for me.
It was the beginning of me learning confidence and a key point in my history.
And I’ve found that for a lot of us, the reason we don’t do something is because of a fear of judgment or doing it wrong.
Which boils down to your belief that you won’t be able to do the thing/task/reach the dream because of a lack of confidence in yourself.
The good news is; confidence can be learned.
Courage can be built.
And your life can change forever, for the better.
The even better part?
It all starts with you!
It starts with you deciding to work on letting go of a fear of judgment, releasing the idea that whatever you’re working on or trying to do has to be perfect and that you’re not good enough to do it correctly.
This takes time, it takes practice, but it can be learned. It's a matter of being willing to be uncomfortable with the unknown, to understand that the definition of who you are isn't what you do or who you're like, but it's how you view yourself deep down.
Because you're more than good enough, you’re actually pretty brilliant!
And when you hold that to be true for yourself, your confidence will grow.
So now I’m turning it over to you, what area of your life do you want more confidence?
AND when you have that confidence, what are you going to accomplish?
Leave a comment below – I’d love to hear from you!
And remember, confidence is the key to everything. (Maybe your first step forward is leaving that comment!)