By Rachael Taylor
First of all, let me say, Happy Thanksgiving! I hope you are able to spend the day (or maybe even take the week off) with family, friends, and loved ones. In my family, we have a tradition of saying what we're grateful for before we start eating. You probably do something very similar too! And one thing I always loved about that tradition was how it made me to take a step back and look at all the good. I actually found it really comforting, especially because I would be in pain during the holidays from the cold weather.
So I wanted to explore another way that being grateful can help you. Because not only does it help in the moment, it can also heal old wounds and help you release negative emotions. So I want to take you through a process that will help you practice self-healing.
Start by thinking about a past hurt that's so strong it's like it happened yesterday or is happening while you think about it.
The first step is to transform these thoughts and old wounds with some good old fashioned truth telling.
By being honest with yourself and others about what you want, what about that memory bothers you? How did it hurt? What would you have liked to happen instead?
The next step is to forgive.
Specifically, who do you need to forgive to heal that wound? Remember that you need to honor step one and be radically honest. You probably won't like this at first. And your mind may say "Oh it doesn't bother me anymore" but your heart still hurts and feels like a victim. Is there any tightness forming in your body when you think about this? Place your hand on that spot and breathe deeply into that spot. And again ask yourself, who do you need to forgive to liberate yourself from that pain?
Because forgiveness is the key to liberation from being a victim. Now it doesn’t make the other person right and it certainly doesn’t condone their behavior. But it puts you back in control of your thoughts and feelings and frees you from being imprisoned by that pain.
The third and final step is connecting with that gratitude.
Because when you have an attitude of gratitude, your life is already abundant. This holiday already puts emphasis on saying what you're thankful for so lean into that and focus on what you have, not what you don’t have.
I call this abundant thinking.
Abundant thinking is when you focus on what you do have and love what is currently in your life, you actually open yourself up to have more of what you love. Did you ever meet someone who all these good things keep happening for them? And they're just like ridiculously happy? That's because what you're emotionally focused directly relates to your actions and beliefs.
I want to know, what are five things or people that you're grateful for?
As always, please share this with someone who needs some abundant thinking in their life.
If you want to talk more about this, ask me a question in the comment below or email me at email@example.com.
Today is the day you take back your life.